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It's Okay to Say, "No."

I am preparing to take the Time Management course on the Half Size Me Community website and have been listening to Heather Robertson's podcasts since I began this journey. She mentioned in a previous episode that time management is one of the top 5 reasons (excuses) that people have not to get their journey started. She shares about goal setting and keeping your time and energy focused on achieving your goals. One thing that really hangs us up in time management is the inability to tell people, "No."


I have always struggled with this concept, not wanting to seem selfish or always feeling the need to explain myself if I did manage to say no. Whether it is to myself or others, it is a matter of self control that I know I need to have over my time. And, let's face it, self control is always a challenge.

On the heels of my successful lunch the other day in saying, "No," to the side dish with my sandwich, I realized that this is a very empowering journey toward self respect, along with positive body image.

I am working with a nutritionist to help me get my intake under control. She is also being super encouraging and working out with me a little bit. She came over yesterday and forgot the Beach Body DVD's we were going to try, but we found some 25 minute cardio videos on YouTube from Fitness Blender. It definitely kicked my butt, but when she said, "Hey, they have beginner videos you could go back and try!" I was ready to quit.

She later texted me to ask how I liked the workout, I wasn't sure how to respond. Finally, I said, "You know, it definitely kicked my butt, but I think I don't like straight cardio workouts. I would really like to try the Beach Body Dance workout videos. I feel like that would be easier for me to stick to, since dancing is something that I enjoy."

That was all I had to say! It was easy and I wasn't anxious about how she would respond! It didn't matter, because being dishonest with her would not help me achieve my goals, anyway. If she was offended by the fact that I didn't like straight cardio, it wouldn't even make sense! "Yeah, Whatever you like... try the dance videos, as long as you're raising your heart rate and out of  breath you are working!"

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